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Self Hypnosis: Reduce Headaches Using Visualization

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How Can Self-Hypnosis Reduce Headaches?

As a Licensed Psychotherapist, I trained in clinical hypnosis. Hypnosis can be thought of as a “coned down” focus of attention, using the metaphor of an ice cream cone which tapers down to a smaller point from a larger area where the ice cream sits.

For example, if your mind is thinking about your job, your lunch, economics, your family and friends, that would be an example of large focus of attention. To “cone it down”, you might take a deep breath in, and visualize a scene that brings you a feeling of comfort and safety. For some people, it may be a beach scene, for others it may be a picture of an afternoon with their family at home or at a park. Whatever it is for you, visualize it, taking in as many senses as possible, such as the visual images, any sounds, smells, tastes or sensations of touch, such as the warm sun against your skin.

There are a number of types of headaches, and the technique I will describe here will not work for all headaches. As always, check with your doctor. Here is a simple technique: After you guide yourself (called “Self Hypnosis”) to a comforting visualization, as I describe above, then shift your focus of attention to your headache. Think of this as a sensation, rather than as pain.

At this point, the headache may already be reduced. To reduce it further, allow your mind to visualize the headache to the best of your ability. Some people see their headache like a black boulder, some see it as a tight strap, like a belt around their forehead, or any number of other colors or images.

Ask yourself what is the shape and color of the discomfort in your head. Allow whatever image you visualize to be acceptable. There is a theory that “what we resist, persists.” By visualizing, or feeling the headache without trying to change or control it, you may find that it shifts and changes on its own, eventually and in a short time, going away completely. Ask yourself periodically, “What does the discomfort look or feel like, now?” Allow a few moments to go by, and ask yourself that question again.

It is helpful if you rate your headache on a scale of 1-10 before you begin the exercise, and rate it again after you re-alert yourself from the visualization. When you re-alert, always alert gently and slowly.

I would appreciate any replies to this blog article, letting me know how it works for you. Again, please see your doctor for any severe or persistent headache.

Ask Ellen Anmuth, Psychotherapist: Reduce Stress in College

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“Ask Ellen Anmuth, Psychotherapist”  is a series of blog entries by Ellen Anmuth MS, MSW, LCSW,  a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Select emails will be answered which may appeal to a broad audience.

This blog does not replace mental health counseling services, and I strongly recommend seeking the help of local licensed mental health providers when indicated. The Social Work Services Department of most hospitals can be a helpful referral source, especially if financial need is an issue.

This article will deal with two different topics from Sharon in Texas and  Don in California.

Sharon S. from Texas: “I find myself seeking approval from my family. They tend to be very controlling and critical, and I am afraid to make a decision that they may not approve of”.

Ellen Anmuth MS, MSW, LCSW: Sharon, I see that you are 20 years old, and living at home while attending community college. This can be a difficult period of life for you, in terms of a concept called, “separation-individuation”. You are in a period of life that some therapists call “The Young Adult Transition”. There are certain developmental tasks in each period of adult life, and stress can result when our inner compass differs from parents’ views.  Do you have friends you can relate to, and who share your values? What type of things do your parents disapprove of?  Are you engaging in any dangerous activity that would support their concern, or do you feel that their controlling behavior is related to treating you like a teenager, rather than a young adult? Sometimes, if parents have a difficult time adjusting to an adult child’s need for separation and individuation, conflict can emerge. Perhaps there might be counseling services through the community college, where you may be able to meet with a licensed therapist in person, to better evaluate the situation and guide you through your options and coping strategies.

Don M. from California: “I am pre-med, and so anxious about my tests that I can’t concentrate to study, and my grades are suffering. Do you have any ideas how I can study when I have so much anxiety about failing?”

Ellen Anmuth MS,MSW, LCSW:  Don, this is a question that so many others have asked me. I have an Education degree, and was an Assistant Professor of Family Medicine, teaching  medical students and doctors about psychology and education. I developed a technique to help people deal with test anxiety that was blocking their concentration. Try this: Take a sheet of paper, and make two columns: 1) The advantages of holding onto the feeling of anxiety, and 2) The disadvantages of holding onto the feeling of anxiety.  Fill out both columns quickly, writing the first things that come to mind. You will see a pattern, which will reveal information that may provide some insight. You may find that there is no logical “advantage” of holding onto the feeling of anxiety! That realization helps us to compartmentalize it away, at least temporarily, in order to concentrate.

Another useful technique is to make a “contract” with yourself, that every day, from 8pm-10pm you will study the course material that worries you the most. Do an “imagery exercise”: Imagine putting the feeling of anxiety in a box that you can put away (metaphorically speaking). You may imagine putting a box with your anxiety on a shelf in your closet, where you can close the door, so that with your anxiety “away” for the few hours, you can focus on the subject matter. After 2 hours, if you want to find that box, open it up, and experience the feeling of anxiety again, you can. You have that control. However, after 2 hours of focused study, you may find that the anxiety can stay in the closed box, and that you feel more confident and relaxed!  In fact, you may decide to throw that black box with anxiety out into the trash, rather than keep it on your closet shelf. This is a guided imagery exercise, which may be helpful. With incremental hours of successful concentration, you will feel more in control, and more confident about passing your tests.

Over-Eating and Feelings: Weight Loss Strategies

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Do you find that you over-eat when you are upset? This is a very common problem. What does “upset” really mean?

It means having feelings such as anger, sadness, fear, guilt, shame, hopelessness, helplessness, and…the list is very big.

Do you ever notice yourself over-eating, and glazed over watching TV while eating a bag of chips or pretzels, not being aware of eating 8 portions?

How do we get control of automatic over-eating?

Action Strategies:

1) If you find yourself opening the pretzel cabinet, or standing in front of the refrigerator, ask yourself, “What am I feeling now?”, and “Am I biologically hungry, or simply yearning to change my mood?”

2) Close the cabinet or refrigerator door, go to your desk in  another room, and write down an issue that is making you sad, scared or angry. Then write down all the feelings about these issues.

3) Then, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and take a few minutes to either listen to soft music, or simply let your mind wander. It also helps to give yourself positive messages of support and compassion.

4) Re-alert gently, and ask yourself, “Am I still biologically hungry?” If the answer is yes, ask yourself what type of food would nourish your body. Then, go to the kitchen, and select the healthy foods best suited to soothing your body’s needs. At this time, after relaxing and identifying your feelings, you are most likely to eat slower and make healthier selections.

 

Interpersonal Communication: Can You Play Tennis if You Walk Off the Court?

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Interpersonal Communication: Can You Play Tennis if You Walk Off the Court?

Interpersonal Communication……it seems simple, doesn’t it? Remember the game of “Telephone”? For those who may not be of a “certain age”, the game was played this way: As a child, we would sit on the floor in a circle of 10-15 children, and whisper a phrase into the ear of the child to our right. That child would then whisper the message they heard into the ear of the child to their right, and around the circle the message would go. By the time the last child heard the message, he or she would tell the group what the message was. Of course, the message was never the same! Often, it was a distorted, comical new version of the original, and all the kids would laugh, knowing that the outcome would be a hilarious distortion of the original message.

Fast forward to the world of adult communication, and the outcomes are anything but comical. The breakdowns in communication are often wrought with gut-wrenching misunderstandings, hurt feelings, anger, resentments and broken relationships.

When you feel misunderstood, angry or hurt in a communication or relationship interaction, what is your style of dealing with that event? Do you detach and say nothing, get angry and explode, or explore the issue in an appropriate, calm and effective manner?

Do you metaphorically stay on the tennis court, and volley back the ball, or do you put down the tennis racquet, and walk off the court?

If you feel bad about an interpersonal interaction, do you continue the “tennis game” feeling resentful, but never call this person again to play tennis, keeping all your feelings secret? Or, do you know a few simple tools and techniques that you can use immediately?

Knowing your emotional style of handling communication breakdown, and using simple and effective communication strategies are the keys to having successful relationships in your personal and business life, which correlates with increased happiness and abundance in all your endeavors.

Three Action Tips:

  1. Recall your “family of origin”, or the family you grew up in. If you were in a non-traditional family, think about the people who had a great deal of influence over your upbringing.
  2. Analyze if there were any obvious patterns of behavior regarding communication and conflict resolution. Did parental figures detach in silence, not letting another person know if they were upset, or what their needs were? Or, did you grow up in a family where people exploded in anger, leaving emotional wreckage in their path? Or, did people tend to communicate calmly and clearly, to a resolution point where all parties felt heard and understood?
  3. Keep a log or journal of moments of stress or conflict in relationships. Document your patterns and note if you tend to detach, attack, or implement effective communication and conflict resolution strategies. Make connections to your family of origin patterns.